“Things will happen in life that you can’t stop, but that’s no reason to shut out the world. There’s a purpose for the good, and for the bad.”
Crazy Pete in Now and Then
It’s a quote imprinted in my memory along with many others from the same film. Now and Then was the ‘coming of age’ film among girls my age. We watched it at many sleepovers, all of us have copies on DVD and those of us who have younger sisters made them watch it as soon as they turned 12.
But tonight, trying to come up with inspiration for tomorrow’s Sunday Scribbling, I put it on in the background. But I stopped typing when that scene came on because I don’t think I truly appreciated the wisdom of those words before now.
As the character of Samantha narrates:
“He gave me the only gift he could, the lesson it had taken him a lifetime to learn. And although I understood the importance of his words; it’s only now looking back that I understand their meaning.”
Crazy Pete is right. There is so much in life that I can’t stop. I can’t control. And hey, I’m not the only one who can’t control this weird existence. When bad things happen, it’s tough to see what purpose they could possibly have.
In this economic climate, it’s difficult to see what is good. But is it, tough and horrible though it is for many people, perhaps got its purpose? Does it show us what is actually important?
I’ll admit that I’ve gone through an awful lot of crap in my relatively short life so far. I list it all in my head and wonder if I imagined half of it, because if someone came to me with my story as their own, I’d be like ‘that can’t ALL happen to just one person‘. For sure, sometimes I think ‘why me? why did I have to get this raw deal?’. Oh how I’d love to say that I’m an amazing selfless contented person. I’d be lying though.
But it’s all relative. There are soooo many people who’ve gone through far worse and still are. There’s pain that I can’t even imagine or understand.
For a long time I tried to shut out the world.
It may work as a survival technique. But it ain’t living.
We can be so afraid of the bad things in life that we miss out on the good.
I don’t want to survive. I want to live. Let’s find that purpose…by living.